When I sat down with the minister—his name was Cliff, he said something to me that completely changed my life and our marriage. What he said to me was the KEY TO SAVING OUR MARRIAGE and it is what has kept us together these past 20+ years, and it is the key to having the thriving marriage we have today. Cliff said:
“Listen, I’m no marriage counselor but I know one thing and that is this:
Things will never be right between you and your wife
until you get things right between you and God.”
If you missed Part One of Our Story- you can read it HERE. You can read Part Two HERE and Part Three HERE!
Now I had no idea what Cliff was talking about. I believed in God and I thought I was a good person… mostly. But Cliff shared with me that there was a difference in believing in God and trusting in God. Over the next couple of months, Cliff shared with me the life-changing, transforming message of Jesus Christ.
The Moment That Changed Everything
On September 18, 1997, I finally surrendered my life and my marriage over to Jesus. Little did I know, my wife had begun to get counseling from a minister at another church 600 miles away. Ten days later, she gave her life to Jesus as well. Our lives have been completely perfect ever since…. UM—NO NOT QUITE!
We still had work to do—and a LOT of work too! But now we were no longer trying to do everything in our own strength. We now had God on our side and even more importantly- we were on His side. And we began to see that we were both on the same side!
We were separated 3 times in the first 3 years of our marriage and now we have been married for over 20 years. Our marriage has not always been sunshine and rainbows since that day. We would be lying if we said that we always handle things perfectly now. But our marriage has now become a blessing and our lives are filled with a joy and peace that we could have only dreamed of before.
A New Marriage and a New Mission
Our deepest desire is for other couples to experience the forgiveness and love that we have in our marriage. We want hurting couples to know that there is hope for their marriage. There is a brighter day on the horizon and it isn’t with a different spouse. You can find true love and fulfillment in the marriage you have right now.
This blog is a testimony of what God has done and continues to do in our marriage. We will be sharing the lessons that God has taught us over the past 20+ years as well as the lessons He is still trying to teach us– sometimes we can be kind of dense!
We don’t know where you are in your marriage right now. Maybe you are where we were 20 years ago and you don’t know how you can possibly go on. Maybe you are beginning to see some warning signs and don’t want to go through what we experienced. OR Maybe you have a wonderful marriage and want it to just keep getting better. Whatever your story is, we invite you to join us on this journey. And maybe… just maybe we will all discover that our marriage is worth it after all!
Well that’s our story- what’s yours? Go ahead and tell us your story or let us know what you think of ours in the comments below! We would love to hear your thoughts!
Blessings for a Healthy Marriage,
JR & Carrie Lightstein